I found this on Facebook. I’m sure it was meant to be funny, but I can’t help but try to explain why this is ALL WRONG! First, I’ll let you read it:
I’d like to say that her reaction is a parody – but sadly, I can’t definitively say that. Just like she has no idea where her husband’s mind is, you can’t begin to guess where her mind is. Did she just come back from shopping with a friend who’s husband walked out on her? Is that why she was late? You simply don’t know…. and trust me not telling her what’s wrong CAN get that bad, that quickly in her head.
From the husband’s perspective, I understand why he was distracted. If he thought that he should have been able to figure out why his motorcycle didn’t start, I can imagine that 100% of his brain-power was churning on that issue. (I know mine would have been) However, in order to prevent a psychotic episode as illustrated above, when your wife starts asking you what is bothering you – a simple “My motorcycle wouldn’t start, and I can’t figure out why. I’m sorry if I seem distracted, but I’m having trouble focusing.” is all you need.
Then she can try to help, or go work on something else while you figure it out. The important thing is to not force her to come up with a story. It almost never ends well.
About the Author: Abby Dryer's goal in life is to bridge the communication gap between men and women. She finds herself giving lots of marital advice to her guy friends whose wives don’t want to have to explain *everything* to their husbands. “Women are hard to understand. I’m a woman, and *I* don’t even get us sometimes! Goodhusbanding is a great guide to help men understand their women, and hopefully communicate with a little more confidence, because that’s what works… communication!”