Yesterday we went over how to help your spouse if she’s doing all of the shopping and wrapping. Today we’re going to talk a little bit about gifts for your wife.
I did a small poll to see what wives were asking for this year, and I got some interesting responses. One lady expressed interest in jewelry (not necessarily diamonds) – but added the note that she appreciates it when her mate takes the time to get to know ‘her style’. Another woman wanted a Dyson vacuum. (WARNING: purchase a vacuum for your wife as a holiday gift at your own risk)
The thing that hit me the most when I was doing this poll is that no matter how many women saw the question, very few answered. I feel your pain, GoodHusbands! How can you be expected to know what to get for your spouse if they won’t tell you?! Worry not, I’m here to help!
First, it’s important to consider the type of person that your spouse is. Glamorous, Super Organized, Geek, Girly Girl, Overachiever?
Ladies who are glamorous probably want jewelry. Sets of jewelry are always nice to have, but aren’t always necessary to buy. Take a look at the jewelry she wears most often. Does she have a pair of earrings that doesn’t have a matching necklace? What about a necklace without matching earrings or a bracelet? I’m fairly certain that you’ll get extra points for helping her complete a set!
If you’ve got a spouse who is always organizing things, getting her more things to add to the clutter she’s trying to cut through may be counterproductive. In keeping with the jewelry theme, take a look and see if her current jewelry is fully contained by her existing jewelry box. If she has more jewelry than space in her jewelry box, a jewelry armoire may be in order. I realize that it may be a bit too late in the game to get something online – I’m a fan of Target’s selection.
If you’ve had the pleasure of geeking out with your wife, you may be able to get her a DVD of any of the great Marvel movies that have come out this year. If that’s not her particular brand of geek, there are plenty of geeky things you can find. Try checking out your local comic book store for something that instantly reminds you of your wife when you see it. (Wonder Woman, perhaps?)
In my experience, Girly Girls like to be pampered. For the girly girl, you may be able to get her a gift without having to brave the mall! Go to your wife’s salon and get her a gift certificate for a new hairdo, manicure, pedicure or all of the above. Jewelry may also be a good choice for the Girly Girl.
For the overachieving wife, you may want to see about getting her a gift certificate for a massage, facial, or any other spa treatment that she never allows herself to indulge in. You could even give her a special “All about Her” day – include gift certificates for a spa treatment, a meal at her favorite restaurant or coffee shop, and of course a coupon from you to handle the kids and/or the chores for the day so she can truly relax.
These are some ideas to get your creative-gift-buying-juices going. It is by no means a fully comprehensive list, nor have I consulted with every wife out there to know exactly what they want. If you want to make sure that you’re getting the perfect gift for your wife, ask her for a list of 5 things she’d really like – and pick from the options she gives you. (If she insists that she doesn’t need anything… go with the Overachiever plan – it’s hard to go wrong with a spa treatment). One thing you should NEVER do is make your wife buy her own gift, or tell you exactly what she wants. Take some time to make her feel loved and appreciated and get her something special that YOU picked out.
Still stumped? Check out a few of our past entries on gifts for your spouse!
One other thing… the one gift that is almost always running short this time of year is the gift of time and patience. Don’t expend all of your energy on buying ‘the perfect gift’ if it means that you’ll be too busy or cranky to actually spend time with her until sometime next year. Don’t take her for granted this season. Show her she’s loved and appreciated!
About the Author: Abby Dryer's goal in life is to bridge the communication gap between men and women. She finds herself giving lots of marital advice to her guy friends whose wives don’t want to have to explain *everything* to their husbands. “Women are hard to understand. I’m a woman, and *I* don’t even get us sometimes! Goodhusbanding is a great guide to help men understand their women, and hopefully communicate with a little more confidence, because that’s what works… communication!”