Every woman enjoys being pampered. Sometimes, when she’s fighting a simple cold, or something equally non-life threatening and altogether annoying, all she needs from you to feel pampered is for you to dote on her while she heals.
If your wife does not like asking for things, try to figure out what she needs without her having to ask for it.
Is she coughing or sneezing? Check to see if tissues and a small garbage can are near her. Tea is also nice to have. 🙂
Are her muscles sore? Bring her the muscle relaxant she brings to you when you are sore, her favorite drink, and give her a gentle massage while she tries to relax through it.
Is she tired but can’t sleep? Caress her hair or gently or rub her back until she falls asleep. If she’s too cold to be comfortable enough to fall asleep, bring her another blanket and stay close to her to help keep her warm.
Is she stressed out after a long day/week/month? Bring her favorite treat, put on her favorite movie, and do a random chore (or more) that she hates doing, but always winds up doing, like the dishes or laundry.
Does she have a headache? Take the kids to the park for a while so she can enjoy the quiet house. Try to set her up with everything she needs for her hour alone, like drinks, snacks, blankets, and TV remotes.
Does she have an inkling of a stomach bug? Make sure to scrub the toilet (all around, and even on the floor). If she needs to put her face there, she will certainly appreciate your efforts.
The fact is, if you’ve been dating, engaged, and then married for a period of time, you should already have an idea of what she needs when she’s feeling down. Show her how important you think she is by doing whatever you can to make her feel better. Sometimes, you just need to listen. Other times, you need to pull out her favorite movie, tuck her in under some blankets on the couch, bring her favorite food or drink, and leave her alone to deal with whatever she’s got.
About the Author: Abby Dryer's goal in life is to bridge the communication gap between men and women. She finds herself giving lots of marital advice to her guy friends whose wives don’t want to have to explain *everything* to their husbands. “Women are hard to understand. I’m a woman, and *I* don’t even get us sometimes! Goodhusbanding is a great guide to help men understand their women, and hopefully communicate with a little more confidence, because that’s what works… communication!”