As a wife of ten years, I’ll be the first to admit that at times I can be a first rate nag. Like most women, I spend too much time taking inventory of the to-do list and personal improvement goals I’ve set for my husband, rather than being grateful for his hundreds of awesome qualities.
I’d even go so far as to say that the vast majority of wives need a proverbial kick in the teeth and a lesson in appreciation. Drop in on any gathering of two or more women and the conversation will be centered around some poor husband or boyfriend’s latest blunder. From forgetting to take out the trash to having the audacity to expect sex once a week, most husbands receive more criticism than they deserve.
Okay, now that THAT’S out in the open I’ll say this, “Honey, I’m sorry, for being so quick to point out your shortcomings, rather than saying thank you for being a better spouse than I probably deserve. But don’t get too big headed about all this, or I’ll turn back into the she-devil that surfaces around the 10th of every month.
In case I haven’t told you, here are a few things I adore about you (in no particular order).
1) When you hold my hand, play with my hair or put your arm around my waist. I’m a total sucker for affection. Heck, most of us females are. Not foreplay affection, but the spontaneous touch for no particular reason that says “I love you.” Reach for my hand and you capture my heart.
2) You’re simple. Compared to my myriad of mood swings, monthly cycles, extreme sensitivity, materialism, body image issues and other dysfunctions, you’re lower maintenance than most house plants. Thank you for that! Like my friend Sandy said when we got married, “Men are easy. They only need two things…both start with F.” You’ve proven her wisdom to be true for a decade now.
3) You take care of things without being asked. The other day, you were late for work because you noticed one of my car’s back tires was low. Rather than casually mention that I should take it to the gas station and put air in it, you lugged your old air compressor out of the shed and took care of it for me. On countless occasions, you’ve filled the gas tank, changed the oil and kept my car insurance and registration up to date without a single “please” or “thank you” from me.
4) You’re such a great dad. (Yes, I know this article is beginning to leak sap like an ailing pine tree. I promise to be back to my normal level of cynicism tomorrow.) I love watching you in the backyard teaching the boys your never fail curve ball technique, your scary monster voices during bedtime stories and the way they try to imitate everything you do. Anyone who’s ever said that moms play a more important role than dads needs to spend an hour with you and our kids.
5) You seem to know something about everything. From counseling pre-retirees on rolling over their investments to tiling a bathroom floor, to identifying each instrument played in Rhapsody in Blue, I’m blown away by your knowledge. What makes it even more impressive is that you’re so modest about it. I’ll say, “Honey, you’re so smart!” and you respond “oh, that’s no big deal.” I love it!
That’s all for now. I’m sure I’ll think of more. I know I don’t say it enough. Thank you for being such a great husband. Now, I’m stepping off the “hearts and flowers” stage to go back to more objective articles.
Filed Under: Husband 101
About the Author: Angela is an award winning humor columnist, freelance writer and public speaker living in Middle Georgia, and the San Francisco Bay Area. She uses her keen insight and clever wit to help husbands understand the complex mechanisms that are their wives. “I like to think of goodhusbanding.com as an owner’s manual for the average wife. Of course results may vary, but we’re all fairly similar whether we admit it or not.” Angela uses her background in psychology, the myriad of learning experiences offered through her ten year marriage, and input from her “in the trenches” audience members across the country as input for her articles.