“Honey, why do you treat my purse like decomposing roadkill when I ask you to hold it for a second?” I asked my husband as he tossed the offending object (my magenta Coach handbag) back to me while shopping in Macy’s. “Why do men act that way? It’s not like my purse is going to bite you or that people will think you’re gay just because your holding it for me.”
“It’s because I am NOT a woman. That’s why! The same reason that I don’t wear your dresses,” he explained as if that reasoning would satisfactorily answer my question.
JAMES: “I am a father and proud of that fact. Diaper bags go along with fatherhood. Purses DON’T.”
ME: “But I’d gladly hold your wallet anytime you ask. I wash and fold your underwear several times a week and don’t fear losing my femininity based on this exposure.”
JAMES: “Look, Honey, reason all you want, but it’s a man thing. I’m just keeping up the code.”
ME: “Code? Whatever!”
I’m still stumped as to why it’s so unappealing to be seen in public holding your wife’s handbag for a few seconds.
I posed the question to a few friends of my husband’s. Their answers validated his response. “It’s gay. It’s not manly. It’s stupid looking. I’ll look like I’m henpecked.” But these answers didn’t really clear things up for me. They seem to he afraid that purses have magical gender changing powers of osmosis. Uhm, okayyyyyyyy.
So, now to my smart, manly, intelligent Good Husbanding audience. Perhaps YOU can tell me what’s so wrong with handbag holding.
About the Author: Angela is an award winning humor columnist, freelance writer and public speaker living in Middle Georgia, and the San Francisco Bay Area. She uses her keen insight and clever wit to help husbands understand the complex mechanisms that are their wives. “I like to think of goodhusbanding.com as an owner’s manual for the average wife. Of course results may vary, but we’re all fairly similar whether we admit it or not.” Angela uses her background in psychology, the myriad of learning experiences offered through her ten year marriage, and input from her “in the trenches” audience members across the country as input for her articles.