Have you ever wondered why women want their husbands to go shopping with them? I promise you, it is not just so that you can hold her purse, or to make you miserable. She wants you there to make her feel beautiful.
When your wife holds up an article of clothing to her body and looks into a mirror, she does not see the same thing you see. She sees every single flaw in her body that no article of clothing could ever conceal. When YOU look at the same article of clothing against the same woman, you see the beautiful woman you married. If your wife needs new clothing, but is not feeling particularly attractive, she needs you to go with her to help her see what you see.
Clothing stores are infamous for wretched lighting. It actually amazes me that stores can stay in business with lighting like that, because it is guaranteed to make any article of clothing look absolutely horrifying on every human being that tries it on. Logically, women know that no body is perfect, and that the lighting will not always be there to make her look like a lumpy mass of goo attempting to fit into a fabric casing, but when that lumpy mass of goo is staring back at you in the mirror, it is sometimes impossible to see the logic in anything except for a chocolate sundae and endless guilt for perpetuating the problem. However, if her dashing husband is with her, it is much easier for a woman to see past the bad lighting, just by looking you in the eye as you check her out in the clothes. If your eyes flash of thoughts that should not be shared in public, she knows that the clothes are good for purchase. If you make an ‘eh’ face, she knows that it’s not just the lighting.
Men who don’t understand their role in this whole process tend to make it harder on everyone. If “it’s fine, let’s go” is all your wife gets out of you while shopping, she’ll keep looking for something that gets that look in your eye – thus making it an entire day trip, rather than a few hours. These trips tend to end up in tears, the silent treatment, and/or the promise of another shopping trip in the future. On the other hand, if you try to feign lust at every article she shows you, she’ll see right through you and never trust you again when you say she’s beautiful (I may be exaggerating a bit, but not really… be careful with this one).
Your role, dear GoodHusband, is to help your wife look in the mirror and see what you see. Without your help, she sees bad lighting, size numbers, and prices. You see a beautiful, sexy, smart woman. The clothes are meant to accentuate everything that is great about her, and she’ll never see it unless you show it to her.
So take your wife shopping! Hold her purse! Make her feel like the woman that you are in love and lust with! It will probably end with good things for you.
About the Author: Abby Dryer's goal in life is to bridge the communication gap between men and women. She finds herself giving lots of marital advice to her guy friends whose wives don’t want to have to explain *everything* to their husbands. “Women are hard to understand. I’m a woman, and *I* don’t even get us sometimes! Goodhusbanding is a great guide to help men understand their women, and hopefully communicate with a little more confidence, because that’s what works… communication!”